Life, Goals and Happiness

 

“Does this called as life pressure or me having a hissy fit?”

    At a certain point in almost two-decade years of life, there is one question that always plays in my mind, why God created man with the ability to think and make decisions rationally compared to other creature on this earth. Despite having the ability, still, these imperfect creation has a weakness which one's action is influenced by how he or she manages to control the emotion so that any regretful incident later could be avoided. As well as, if someone tries to look upon the diversity of human nature and behaviour in the bigger picture and unite all the differences among millions of people, it is certainly impractical. It same goes to a beggar sitting on the sidewalk, relish his life by living the same routine watching thousands of people passing by while analyse everyone’s look and attitude from sunset, sunrise until the midnight left him all alone. The actual purpose of my writing started with expressing emotion and behaviour is because in general, a person judges others and classify them through the appearance and character brought although the idiom says “do not judge a book by its cover”, no one could deny the fact everyone loves seeing pretty things and feel good about it. Similarly, in sustainable development definition has mentioned that societies must live and meet their needs, whereas it covers a wide range of human needs from life necessities like food and shelter to money, health and education. However, without those who are brilliant in making an appraisal and act efficiently among high positions in large organizations such as UNESCO, UNHCR, WHO or UNICEF in establishing programmes and convey the funds and aid to the less fortunate, they might fail to achieve their objective to help nations and improve the lives of people.

    Yet, if these words apply with my life story as a millennial-born from childhood to early adulthood, definitely, this clueless girl is nothing to compare with the grandparents' ages more than half a century of herself. To begin, a brief introduction of my background, I am just a girl who grows up in a simple and modest family like the family pictured in the movies and so. Still, the ups and downs that happened in my life are followed by a quote, “everything happens for a reason”. Nevertheless, the advice of the ancestors about practising a non-busybody life, it does not work for me, unfortunately. In the case of mine, as no one cares about my opinion and naively adhere to the situation, I lost my own identity and the original ‘me’ starts to slowly change into low self-esteem, self-hatred, ungrateful, hopeless, and depressed. The reality that has been unforeseen by the society whereby people stand for their prevalent beliefs and ego is actually a poison to one's future. In fact, from the experience I went through before my eyes, initially parents send their children to school in wish of nurture knowledge and virtues to ensure their dazzling future, however, it turns to become disappointment where unhealthy competitive culture and to be the best among the best has become a certainty by the educators to achieve appreciation and praises that only stay temporarily. At the age of kindergartener, both my parents started to notice the remarkable part of mine when they often saw me read books page by page passionately and a bit competent in learning. In the meantime, they showered me with numerous books and materials at home to prepare for my school days. Followed by blessings with compliments for my ingenuity in academic, both my shoulders were heavy with burden to continue people’s expectation, besides, success to remain consistent in the top class every year and received awards at the school’s annual Parents Teacher Association event. Certificates and trophies adorned the see-through cabinet in the living room of the house. The guests and relatives who come to visit were unfailingly praised my achievement and asked tips from my mother until she seems to be overwhelmed into the conversation without realized her daughter felt anxious and uneasy inside, but able to give big smile as a sign of agreement.

    At the end of the day, Nur Aisyah is also a human, just like everyone else, has feeling and mind to know what is wrong with her life. She learns that sometimes she rather choose to physically hurt but mange to recover with the help of medicine, than mentally hurt but struggle to reach for help. Indeed, no one should be blame in the situation but the key to solve the matters is empathy. Able to listen, understand and share the feelings of another. These reflect on all scope of institutions, family, political, educational, religious, and economy. Human has its own limitation if there is no one attempts to tell and share, else will never know and if there is no one listen and understand, the problem will never solve. In Islam, one of the fundamentals of Maqasid Al-Shariah is the protection of life (hifz al-nafs) focus on fulfilling the needs of people to live harmoniously, safe and healthy. Therefore, by being emphatic and caring to others is a way to obtain harmony and peaceful life among us by building a reliance society that brings great outcome to benefit the country. Equivalent to the dimensions of sustainable development goals, peace. In targeting to protect nations to attain the desire of people to live in peace without violation of human rights, conflicts, and terrorism. Perhaps, to put into the broad view of 17 Sustainable Development Goals, a goal of good health and well- being to win the fight against every disease, this also including mental health issues among teenagers that continuously rise up and become a knotty problem to the government to deal with since this issue is yet to be considered as taboo in few countries and also less awareness compared to other diseases.

 Living with no pressure may sound ridiculous to attain by some people, but courage and determination to seek for happiness is nothing impossible!

 No more hissy fit.